Bride-to-be uninvited her brother to her wedding but still expected to get ready at his place: ‘She still expected to come to my apartment at 7am with the bridesmaids, photographer and makeup artist while I just made myself scarce for the day’

Author image for Olivia Arocena
Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Sep 7, 2026 1:00 PM EDT

Some people are honestly too self-centered to function

By now, we should all know that no is a full sentence when it comes to rejecting an offer. Of course, with family, sometimes using that technique might turn things a little messy.

Family members sometimes think that family relationships don't need to follow most of the behavioral and moral rules that apply to every other relationship; and in a way, they don't, but loyalty has limits.

Of course you're not going to stop seeing your mother because of any random fight, but it's not like you can do whatever you want to a relative and then expect them to be at your beck and call, there needs to be some sort of equilibrium.

That's exactly what's happening to this brother, in my opinion, and that's why I think he needs to instill some serious boundaries. I don't think of it as revenge; I think of it as a normal reaction and a way to avoid drama.

Would you go to the apartment of someone you uninvited from your wedding and had a huge fight with, to get ready for said wedding and also bring a bunch of people? Isn't that a kind of crazy idea?

I'm honestly sad that this brother is doubting his thoughts so much that he had to post them, but I'm glad, at the same time, the internet will bring light to this otherwise obvious situation. No matter how much she hates his girlfriend, uninviting her brother is weird too.

I will definitely need updates on this marriage because I have a bad feeling about it, and I'm going to want to KNOW.

Do you think this sister knows she's taking advantage of her brother? Or is she so self-centered she honestly thinks he owes her that?

Advertisement
  • Cheezburger Image 10661459200
    via Fernanda Nuso

    The bride-to-be getting ready at her brother's apartment

    Models for explanatory purposes only

  • AITJ for not letting my sister use my apartment to get ready after she told me not to come to her wedding?

    My sister is getting married soon and a while back she asked if her and the bridesmaids could get ready at my apartment. I live really close to the venue and their bridal
    via Personal-Try-130
  • suite costs extra, so I said sure. The problem is my sister and my girlfriend have never really gotten along. Nothing huge happened between them, just years
    via Personal-Try-130
  • of little comments and arguments and they basically avoid each other now. A couple weeks ago my sister told me she didnt want my girlfriend at the
    via Personal-Try-130
  • wedding because she didnt want any tension there. We've been together almost 4 years, so I told her I wasnt comfortable going to a family wedding where my
    via Personal-Try-130
  • partner was specifically excluded. It turned into a pretty bad argument and eventually my sister said if thats how I feel then I shouldn't come either.
    via Personal-Try-130
  • So I told her okay, but then she would also need to find somewhere else to get ready. Apparently she thought those were two completely separate things. She still
    via Personal-Try-130
  • expected to come to my apartment at 7am with the bridesmaids, photographer and makeup artist while I just made myself scarce for the day. My parents are saying I
    via Personal-Try-130
  • Cheezburger Image 10661458688
    via Omar Lopez

    Bride and bridesmaids in the apartment

    Not actual story subjects

  • should just let her use it because I already agreed months ago and changing plans this close to the wedding is petty. I just find it weird that I'm
    via Personal-Try-130
  • not wanted there but my apartment apparently still is. AITJ?
    via Personal-Try-130
  • Cheezburger Image 10661458944
    via Wedding Dreamz

    The bride-to-be getting ready elsewhere

    Photo is a representation of scenes

Want More? Follow Us and Add Us as a Preferred Source on Google.

Tags

family drama wedding party wedding drama family feud relationships wedding family
Scroll Down For The Next Article